Sex addiction is a treatable condition that affects millions of people yet remains misunderstood. While it’s easy to joke about how sex can ‘take over’ someone’s life, it can often be a very serious and destructive issue. A sex addict is someone who cannot control or stop their sexual behavior, even if they are aware that it’s causing serious problems.
A sex addict experiences intense urges, cravings and a craving that won’t go away, and they will often find it hard to maintain healthy relationships or focus on other activities. Sex addiction can be a devastating and compulsive disorder that ruins marriages, careers, and overall happiness.
A sex addict may have various compulsive sexual behaviors, such as looking at pornography, engaging in cybersex, visiting sex workers, having multiple sexual partners, or engaging in other reckless sexual activities. Sex addiction can also manifest in the form of thoughts, behaviors, and rituals around sex that feels uncontrollable and overpowering.
A sex addict may frequently neglect their responsibilities to consume as much time as possible engaging in the behaviors. They may hide the extent of their addiction from loved ones and make excuses for missing work and other engagements. They may also engage in risky activities such as unprotected sex, and may be in denial about the risks of their behavior.
There are physical signs of sex addiction as well. Sex addicts typically experience a heightened libido and a need for significantly more stimulation than other people. People with this disorder often find themselves in the bathroom multiple times a day, and may suffer from erectile dysfunction or other physical issues.
Sex addicts may also turn to substance use in order to dull their feelings or to increase libido. Alcohol, drugs, and smoke can all be used in an attempt to make the addict ‘feel better’ and numb their conscience.
One of the most common signs of sex addiction is an inability to abstain from sexual behavior. Sex addiction often turns into a pattern of regular and escalating sexual behavior, even when the individual knows it to be wrong. For example, a sex addict may promise themselves to abstain from sexual activities for a certain period of time, only to give in to temptations after a short while.
Sex addicts may also suffer from low self-esteem and a strong sense of guilt or shame regarding their behavior. They may find it difficult to cope with the shame they feel after engaging in their addictive behaviors, and may go into great lengths to hide it from others. A perpetual cycle of feeling ashamed and engaging in addictive behavior can then ensue, leading to a further downward spiral.
Finally, addicts may experience significant financial problems as a result of their addiction. They may find themselves spending excessive amounts of money on activities or resources related to fulfilling their obsession. This can often lead to increased levels of depression and anxiety.
When left untreated, sex addiction can lead to destruction in relationships and life in general. If you or someone you know is struggling with this condition, take comfort in knowing that there is help available. Professional resources such as addiction counselors and support groups can help individuals work through their addiction and gain insight into healthier and more productive ways of living.